Birthdays are a perfect cause for reflection. A time to sit back and reflect on what we’re grateful for, how far we’ve come and where we’re going in life. I feel like every birthday is the chance to reflect and redirect with a fresh start and a chance to course-correct our journeys.
Yesterday was my Birthday. The 47th anniversary of my big entrance into this world. My 47th trip around the sun. When I thought about that fact, ‘my 47th trip around the sun’, I got to thinking about how many trips around the sun the average person does.
The average age that people live to in Australia is 82.5 and the current average age of an Australian is 37, so it is safe to say that I am more than half way through my life. Fuck! That was some scary shit when I realised that! Even if I lived to 90, I’m still more than halfway!
Which lead me to thinking about my ‘Mid-Life’. I decided long ago that a “Mid-Life Crisis” was not something I needed or wanted (I’ll leave that up to the men wanting the red sports cars and affairs with 20 year olds!).
What does my Mid-Life mean for me?
Firstly, I am starting peri-menopause, so that rules out any more kids (not that we were planning on any more, because one is so enough for us!), but it was still a reality and a finality that I was faced with. Which came with a small moment of sadness, but alongside that, I now feel like it is summer during winter (I think I’ll move to Antarctica for summer though!), my hair changed from a few stray greys to just all grey, requiring more colouring-in attention than ever before. Oh and I now have tweezers residing permanently on my desk, because facial hair is now a daily battle! Oh and I have realised that I am now officially old!
But, instead of curling up to die an early death, because life is almost over, I am stepping into my power. Finally. For the first time in my life, I feel free. I feel free to be me, warts, coloured-in greys, hot flushes and all.
I have many, many goals and have always been a big goal setter, but the one thing that has often held me back is being concerned about what other people think of me!
I was too worried about being judged for my choices, that it stopped me actually moving forward with some of my big goals. Some of that comes from insecurities and limiting beliefs from my childhood and some of that comes from that good old Aussie Tall Poppy Syndrome (which incidentally is why my logo is a Blue Poppy, because it stands tall and rare).
But, I am now at a stage in my life, where I no longer care what other people think. I am no longer going to worry about judgement or let the fear of it stop me.
Life is far too short to not do the things that you were put on this earth to do.
Life is far too short to not do the things you love.
Life is far too short to let others dictate what you should or shouldn’t do.
So, I’m 47 and a bit over halfway through this thing called life. I don’t look at this age as needing to be a time of “crisis”. For me, this time of my life, while also learning all that I have been learning about brain science, is my “Mid-Life Awakening” and I now know that I can do anything. Anything is possible for me. It is never too late to do what you want to do in life.
I am who I am and I do not want to live (or die) with regrets. I do not want to die wondering about things that I never tried or said yes to. I want to live a life that is full and fun and abundant and exactly how I want it to be. Not how anyone else thinks my life should be.
With that said, you will be hearing from me a whole lot more, because I am now no longer afraid to put myself out there. The bandaid is being ripped off and I am here to be me. I am here to make a difference in the lives of as many women as I can. I am here to change lives. Just as I am having my own mid-life awakening, I am here to facilitate your mid-life awakening too!
Now, I think it might be time for a glass of post-birthday Riesling! Ciao!
Until next time,